Courage isn't just what you do. It's how you live. And it's reflected in what you say. The root word for courage is the Latin word cor — strength of heart. Courageous people live from the inside out. And the way we teach our kids to interact with others is training their heart. There are four phrases courageous people say: "thank you," "You're welcome," "I'm sorry, " and "I forgive you." Dads have the opportunity to model every one of them and the responsibility to train his

Discipline has two sides to the coin: confront and compliment. What you correct and what you affirm should both be driven by the same thing — your values. That's what separates reactive parenting from intentional training. When my wife and I were raising our kids, we chose to confront three things: disobedience, deceitfulness, and disrespect. And we chose to compliment three things: thoughtfulness, thankfulness, and truthfulness. Both lists. Intentional. Values-driven.

"Wait until your father gets home" defined what dad's discipline meant. He was the enforcer. The closer. But if discipline is training, then a father's role isn't just to confront bad behavior. Discipline is one way a father shapes a child's heart. And the heart is where character is formed. A father has to choose between between performance-driven discipline and values-based training. The goal of a father's discipline isn't a compliant child. It's a courageous one.

It's said "more is caught than taught." That's especially true in parenting. Kids learn what matters by what gets repeated. Not just what gets said. What gets rewarded. What gets ignored. What gets corrected. What gets celebrated. These are the things that really teach and train your child. In Dad Academy, we talk about discipline differently. Discipline isn't punishment — it's training. And training is discipleship.